There are two types of work in this world. The first is the laborious kind, which I call “work with obligation.” It’s work that we do because of a contractual obligation. The second – very different – type of work that we do is “work with intention.”When we are working with intention, we toil away endlessly – often through the wee hours of the morning – on projects we care about deeply. Whether it is building an intricate replica model of an ancient ship, or pulling an all-nighter to write a song or map out an idea for a new business, you do it because you love it.
Please think about what your Focus Question is for the Deep Dive session. This is the driving question for the session--what you want to discover through this process. Examples: What should my next career move be? What can I do to be happier, more content, feel more alive? Where should I move. What's next? Articulate the gist of what you are seeking through this process-your desired outcome.
Think about this question or this "frame" and sleep on it. Your subconscious will start processing it during your sleep cycle and you will be primed for the morning session with me. Deep Dive Session--What's it like
This is an intensive process and a very organic one. There are a few key models which provide a method to this process and my practice is influenced by the MGTaylor Modeling Language. Please review if you would like.
I will ask questions and move through the session in a mode of appreciative inquiry. Consider this a discovery session for yourself. We will unearth-fine tune-hone in- what you are seeking or wanting to create or change.
Consider: -- creating new goals -- redirecting some aspect of your life -- prioritizing important projects for the year -- building new momentum in a part of your life -- rethinking and reinventing your life and career -- start your actions for the year
We will build a "Canvas" for you during the Deep Dive which will serve as a graphic memory of the session and use graphic facilitation techniques to record your idea, thoughts and actions.
You cannot have love for anything outside of yourself if you do not feel that same love for yourself. Your life is a mirror of relationships. Every person in your life is a mirror of you. Every love in your life is a reflection of your ability to love. In essence, your life only has meaning in proportion to the love you will allow in your own heart. Maharishi Mahesh Yogi was known to say, "I love you. But that's no concern of yours."
True, real, innocent love flows from a fountain within your heart – fill your heart with love and the world outside you sees it and feels it. Your love showers upon everyone you touch, but only if the fountain is filling you up. Constrict that fountain to a trickle and there's nothing left for the rest of the world. Is filling your car with gas selfish? Is filling your lungs with air self-centered? Actually, quite the contrary . . . you breathe so you can live.
Loving yourself is no different. Close your eyes and repeat the affirmation: My life only has meaning in proportion to the love I allow in my heart. Now that you believe you are indeed pure love, let's make a difference. With all the commitments, intentions, and vows going on in the world right now, we have the ability to ACT right now and transform the planet.
So TODAY PERFORM ONE ACT OF LOVE. Kiss someone, give a gift to someone, smile at someone, call someone, give an extra tip to someone, wink at someone, hug someone, praise someone, email someone, give a piece of chocolate to someone, help someone grieve, text someone a kind word, forgive someone.
Take the Chris Brogan Challenge and look for three words that will help you frame your challenges and opportunities for 2009.If you want to try the process, it works something like this: think of how you want to be successful in 2009. Then, try to think in even broader terms. Extrapolate on the broader terms, and find one word to hang the idea on.
Try setting your three words far out on the horizon, but such that they can lead you to your goals every day. Meaning, can you use the same word to get you started, but have it still be relevant when you’re almost at the big goal?
So, what are your three words?
Here are mine: Swim--the current, in projects and revenue Grace--patience and compassion with family and friends Lands--see new lands, 5th decade, open space, new territory, new geos, new eyes
When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.
From Daily Om Lessons of Discovery Instruction Manuals for Living
Depending on what stage we are in our lives, we can sometimes feel like we ought to know more about who we are or how to live. We may even berate ourselves for making the same mistakes, or for just not "getting it," whatever "it" may be. We wonder how our lives would be now, if only we had “known better.” During moments like these, it is important to remember that none of us are born with instruction manuals and that learning lessons is a lifelong journey.
Inherent to our being born is that we are here to observe, learn, and grow. Accompanying this is a built-in guarantee that there will be mistakes and misadventures along the way. And while it is only natural that we may sometimes become overwhelmed, especially when the lessons keep coming, it is important to remember that learning to understand yourself and your world is an ongoing and active process where the journey is more important than the destination. Every lesson is intended so you can become more of who you are. And as you grow through this self-discovery, you begin to create your own instruction manual. The "how’s" and "why’s" are yours to discover, and part of the beauty of being alive is that these rules are always changing.
If you feel that you would like to explore what your personal instruction manual may already say, then try writing down in order some of the significant events that have happened to you. It’s also important to take note of what you learned from each one. When you are done, you may be surprised to discover how much you are always growing, and that every lesson learned always informs the next. That being said, there is never any need to be hard on yourself or think that you should have it all figured out. We always know as much as we’re meant to know at that moment, and growing into our fullness is a process that unfolds in divine timing. You and your life are beautiful works in progress. Discover yourself and embrace your life’s lessons, and your instruction manual will create itself.
nature of business organizations has changed dramatically over the past few
decades. Today, employers and employees both understand few show up
thinking they will collect their ‘gold watch’ after 25 years of
service. Instead, individuals are responsible to carve and erect their
Individuals need to keep themselves engaged in a work
life that might span more than 50 years. And, to do this requires a
deep understanding of self.
Peter Drucker said, “Only when you operate
from a combination of your strengths and self knowledge can you achieve
true and lasting excellence”. This familiar but timeless wisdom holds
truer today. So, let’s revisit Drucker’s 5 questions first introduced
in the article, Managing Oneself, HBR,1999:
What are my strengths? (how do you know, what do
you do to strengthen them and how do you use this knowledge to
establish, and manage relationships?)
How do I work? (how do you learn? are you a reader or listener? do you prefer solo to groups?)
What are my values? (and are they consistent with your organization’s values/)
Where do I belong? (is my role the optimal, the best fit for me?)
What can I contribute? (how will I use my
self-knowledge and strengths to make a difference in my organization,
Without these answers, most people waste time improving skill areas
where they have little competence, or try to modify ‘personality’
traits that cannot be changed. Drucker and authors that are more recent
advise us to play to our strengths. What do you think? What stories can
Summer is traditionally a time reserved for relaxing with family and friends. Summer is also great time in the year to engage in a bit of self renewal, to 'press pause button' and step back from one's daily activities to notice how 2008 is rolling out. There's no better time to recalibrate before the manic Fall starts.
Five Tips for August Renewal
1. Make a list of activities you loved when you were under the age of 25, post your list in a visible place for a few days -- then pick one activity to resurrect and try it on for the month.
2. Take a mini-vacation that requires only a little planning -- make it within driving distance of home and somewhere you haven't been.
3. Take a day long silent retreat in you home -- no email, no phones, no television, just YOU.
4. Scan 2008, looking back and looking at the months ahead -- create two columns on a blank page -- one side for what's working and the other for what needs adjusting -- brainstorm on ways to make small adjustments.
5. Make time for dreaming big dreams without any requirements to act on them --- just allow a bit of space to wander in unknown territory! Who knows where you might lead yourself.