Our early life experiences often lead us to focus on limited questions like these: How can I survive? How can I get even? How can I get by? How can I hide so nobody sees me? How can I get people to love me?
We can consciously change the quality of the questions we ask in life. Trade in your old questions for new, high-quality questions like these:
How can I bring forth my true genius?
How can I add the most value to the people around me and create abundance for me at the same time?
How can I express and enjoy the greatest flow of love and abundance?
Take a few minutes to do some thinking and journaling:
Generate a written list of the limited questions you think you've been asking.
Create a new list of high-quality questions to replace them.
Don't strain to think of these...simply relax and let them come to you. As you move through your week, float the following affirmation through your mind and body:
I discover the essential questions of my magnificent life.
Yesterday I was working with a coaching client and we talked about radical personal responsibility, which was introduced to me by Master Coaches, Paul and Layne Cutright of Santa Fe, New Mexico. It is a new way of being for many and an excellent code to practice.
When you assume radical personal responsibility, you live in a truth that proclaims:
I am responsible for how I allow others to affect me.
In a world of forces beyond my control, I can learn to be the keeper of my own heart and mind.
Even when things appear not to be going my way, and I am upon an emotional sea of crossing and diverging currents, I can still navigate my way to my ultimate good fortune.
I proclaim that I am not a victim of the world I see.
I am a co-creator of it.
Let love and wisdom be my moral compass, and let clarity be the wind in my sails.
New peace, harmony, and power fill your relationships when you practice radical personal responsibility. Through it, you enter a more refined sphere of relating that enhances your life and accelerates the realization of your ultimate spiritual self. Practicing radical personal responsibility forever changes the way you approach and resolve conflict.
Here's an excellent tip and projecting and getting out of denial. It comes from my favorite relationship coaches, Paul and Layne Cutright.
People talk about denial all the time, and it's probably one of the greatest personal challenges to recognize when you're in denial. By definition, you can't see what you're doing. But this should help.
First, recognize that projection, one of the sour fruits of denial, is a part of human psychology at this point in our evolution. We all do it and we are likely to keep doing it for the foreseeable future. So, being in an enlightened partnership is not about never projecting. It is about being mindful and self-reflective enough to recognize when you are doing it.
The ability to listen effectively is an essential component of leadership, but few leaders know just what it takes to become a better listener. You can improve your ability to lead effectively by learning the six skills for active listening. The Center for Creative Leadership recently published a guidebook authored by Michael Hoppe outlining six skills that contribute to an active listening mindset.
Active listening involves paying attention, holding judgment,
reflecting, clarifying, summarizing and sharing.
Each skill includes
various techniques or behaviors.